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I don't want Dylan to "feel safe as a girl" but rather as the feminine MAN that he is. Men need to make room for their more feminine brothers in the space known as 'masculinity' as opposed to women being mandated by force of law to make room for them in ours. And that goes for whether they are "fully intact" or not. A penis is not required for men to rape and otherwise abuse us. Men are not and never can be women as your essay so clearly recognizes. Thank you, from one crone to another. #TeamTERF

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I meant to put girl in quotes. I will fix

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He is beyond rediculous. I cant and won't even look at him and his OTT delusional affectations. Then theres barrymore kneeling at the woke trans altar which I also couldn't watch. I sure do hear ya about all those days of being a girl tho. Save the tomboys is a phrase I've come to love. I really hope that LGB divorce T.

Thanks for the article, Cindy. 💚

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Thank you Cindy. I am just not so tolerant of their insistence that I accept they are a 'girl.'

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"All of the benefits and none of the distress."

This also fits the mindset of politicians sending other people's children off to war.

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It is definitely a class-privilege thing, as well.

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ABSOLUTELY! Add to that list the Klaus Schwabs and Nicole Kidnman's, who want us to "Eat Ze Bugs". :( You can bet your bottom butterfly that they will be chowing down on some delicious organic baked potatoes, smothered with clarified butter and fresh chopped greens. :(

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just to add, which I know ya all probably know -- this is all financed by billionaire pervs/AI guys who are making big bucks. (see Jennifer Bilek if you want chapter and verse.) this involves child (and animal) abuse on a massive scale in the bio labs and in the schools. also it has destroyed women's studies. I abhor "they" but I thank you, Cindy, for your courage in bringing this subject up.

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I’ve been around since 1944 and have been a ‘boy’ all this time. My wife and I are struggling to understand all this stuff, especially since we have a sweet granddaughter who decided during Covid isolation that she was a boy. I appreciate your take on Dylan.

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My granddaughter has been back and forth, we love them no matter what.

Now she is a gay girl, at 13. I always think why do was have to choose a gender to be, or love?

I think it's possible for people to fall in love with the same gender, or a different gender.

There has been a lot of mental health issues with my grandchildren because of the lockdown and isolation. I hope we can recover, xo

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Loving them means being truthful with them and the truth is that humans can't change sex no matter what form of medicalization they embark on. People don't fall in love with a 'gender' (sex role stereotype), they fall in love with a person of the same sex, opposite SEX, or both if they are bisexual. Most kids that struggle with 'gender dysphoria' come to accept their bodies as they mature IF they don't get started on the medical path of puberty blockers and wrong sex hormones which seems to seal the deal. Most also discover they are gay. I wish you and your granddaughter well.

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Yes, my granddaughter knows she cannot become a biological boy. My point is, giving babies hormone blockers or surgery before they even know what they really want is criminal. I was watching the story of Jazz Jennings and my heart is breaking for her. HIS parents did this to him because his heinous mom wanted a girl. Jazz seems to be on the brink of suicide and is confused because he is now attracted to a girl.

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Indeed it is criminal. And agreed, what's been done to Jazz is horrifying. My heart breaks for him too.

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Dear Cindy

I resonated with much of your article, as usual, as well as the number of days you've spent on this earth as a girl/woman/crone. (In my case: 371 days less. Give or take.)

I fervently hope never to feel as you felt, and still feel, after the loss of your beloved son.

I know Dylan (I'd no idea who this person was until you wrote about them, guess I'll go look) will never experience any of the actual pain of "womanhood" which you have.

I hate the fact that you need to figure out how best to purchase enough nutritious food to feed yourself on the little money that remains in your bank account.

I have more than that. It's due to the fact that I charge most of my grocery purchases, and because the companies which issued them just keep raising my Credit Card limits...

They may soon rue those decisions though. I'm close to being unable to swing my monthly minimum payments.

I always seem to get bailed out though, just before I sink. For instance: I was down to my last 17 bucks when I was finally hired by someone, almost a year to the day that my business went belly up during Canada's "State of Emergency" declaration, 3 years ago.

By the way: Happy Covid-versary! 💩

Then came the jab mandates. I couldn't get hired to chop vegetables in a fast food joint without "proof of vaccination".

Survived that bullshit too but that's not the point Cindy.

You and I should not be writing about The (insane) Hour of Our Time, and the financial insecurity we're currently experiencing.

Not after all the battles we fought in order to arrive at these "Golden Girls" years.

Yet here we are eh... for fuck's sake!!

I'll be sending you a few US$, monthly, until my piddling stash is gone.

Love you, my fellow cancerian crone. ❤

(If I had your email addy, I wouldn't have to post this. 😉 You have mine. It'll be in your Subs. Please beam me a quick email so that I have it?Thanks. At which point I can delete this.)

Cheers!

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Oh, and I just talked to my son, and, even though he has a great job, he has to pay child support, so we are going to go into a thrifting/used furniture business. He has done it in the past and I know someone who makes a very good living buying thrift store things, and reselling on eBay--with, or without, refurbishment. I will be okay. Lots of love.

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Just a thought, I have a friend who does something similar, however, she goes to an local online estate auction (for this county in WA) where she buys lots for as low as a dollar or two and resells the items at garage sales and on ebay. Check it out and good luck to you!

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thanks Baker Charlie!

Peace

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Wonderful!

Hope Cindy gets a lot of feedback like this. ❤

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Right on. So glad you have a "Plan B".

You have a keen eye, based solely upon what you've shown us of your lovely crib.

If you score good vintage clothing & certain types of collectibles? You can cross post your items on both eBay and Postmark, etc.

There are some good YouTube channels with pretty decent data, as well as re-selling tutorials.

I'm sure you've already done your homework! 😉

Email me anyway: I'll send you some data.

💖

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No, we just started thinking about it but Andy has done pretty good doing it casually

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You are the sweetest, but I don't want anyone in the same boat to send me money--I was getting a nice monthly contribution that covered my expenses, while I did some work for and with the people, the check became sporadic in August, and stopped all together in January--which has severely fucked me up financially. I applied for SS, but because of my age and income tax resister status, the monthly payment will be less than 1/5 of the other funds. I, too, used credit cards during this time, and while I still have lots of credit, I can't even begin to hope to even pay the monthly payments, now, when I would pay them off every month before Covid. What a fucked up world. No, no one should have to struggle financially, when we also have to struggle to adjust to these old bodies and the relentless march to even older age. Sigh---but monsters like Dr. Falsie, Bill GatesofHell, and George Bush (to name just a few), are very comfortable. At I have my family, a roof over my head, and lots of love. AND I DIDN'T TAKE THE JAB, that's why I lost my funding. You know where I am coming from. Forward!

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Yep, yep and yep. I read you loud and clear.

Keep checking your PO Box. I'm still stuck in BC. You need it more than I do.

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Ok, missy. Xo

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Do not delete your comment and good luck!

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Ok. 😁

Thanks. ❤

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Perfect Cindy, thank you. I am not in the loop enough to know about Dylan, but thanks for letting me know, as these cultural memes, although distressing, are important to keep up with. I salute you and all the girls, who are way ahead of Dylan in their historical girlyness.

Please explain to me the pronoun phenomena. You are using the plural when referring to Dylan. I was slightly miffed when a clearly female Ivy league university professor, married to a very male male, announced her pronouns on our UU church zoom service. [I suspect she is a CIA plant, just showing up to see what Im doing, but like you, I digress sometimes. :) ]

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You know, I would usually use "he/him" for a born-male, but I am throwing the transactivists a small bone, because I would hope to get people to think, not immediately stop reading. I know it annoyed some people who wanted me to use "him/her" but they are already on my side about this issue. I actually hate "they/them" but I live in the real world where some girls I know will go bonkers if I call them "she/her" right now, and if they go bonkers, we cannot have the chat about biological gender that is so important. I am talking about middle-school girls that are always on the edge of emotional breakdown, anyway. Thanks for your question! xo C

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Excellente, ty! xos back atcha!

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Outstanding, as always!

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xo

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Add to Camille Paglia's assessment, the phenomena of Mass Formation, described best by Mattias Desmond, who states that a society removed from nature and natural human interactions, will develop mass psychosis.

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Camille Paglia also came into my consciousness reading Cindy's essay. Patriarchy and the forced banishment of natural-born women and girls is certainly a hallmark of a 'civilization' in decline.

Thank you!

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One of my gurus, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, said that women uphold Dharma (righteousness). When women are corrupted and oppressed, its all over for a society.

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March 18, 2023
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If I'm not mistaken, the term originally was 'body dysmorphic disorder' which in my view more accurately reflects the issue.

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Yes! I recall wanting to be a mermaid at 8. I got over it!

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I still want to be a mermaid. Mermaids have grannies, right?

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Of course!

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